When to Get Mental Help

If you’re like most men, you think you have this under control. It’s sad to think that men are four times more likely to die by suicide, accounting for 80% of suicides. This is often caused by undiagnosed depression. Additionally, recent studies indicate that men are experiencing higher levels of loneliness and social isolation. We cannot continue down this path, and there is no justification for doing so.

Why has this gotten out of control?

The truth is, mental health has been largely overlooked and ignored in the United States for both men and women. We’ve created the narrative that seeking mental health is a weakness. Historically, men have felt the pressure of ignoring “feelings,” being bullied if attempting to work through emotions, or God forbid, crying. Feelings of shame, embarrassment, and fear of being negatively perceived by peers and the community are a mountainous barrier for men who could benefit from getting professional help.

We’re at the point now where needing mental health is becoming less taboo. People can at least enter an office without as much fear of ridicule. However, other hurdles prevent men from getting mental help. Through virtual platforms, mental health services are becoming more accessible, but are still largely unaffordable.

This is your reminder to be kind to yourself.

We’ve accepted the fact that the physical body goes through times of illness, such as viruses, infections, and diseases. Why don’t we extend the same courtesy to our minds? Just as with other key items in your life that require regular maintenance, there is no shame in taking your mental health to a professional.

Suicidal Thoughts

Are you harming yourself or thinking about it in any way?
Are you wondering if everyone would be better off without you?

Behavioral Changes

Are you withdrawing from friends, family, or activities you typically enjoy?
Are you taking on riskier behaviors like reckless driving, substance use, or gambling?

Physical Changes

Are there noticeable changes in sleep that could be caused by stress, such as insomnia or oversleeping?
Are you eating much more or less than usual?
Do you have unexplained aches, fatigue, or low energy?

Emotional & Mood Shifts

Are you experiencing persistent feelings of irritability, anger, or agitation
Have you noticed an increase in cynicism or negativity?
Are you feeling hopeless, worthless, or constantly on edge?

Cognitive Changes

Are you having difficulty concentrating, making decisions, or remembering things?
Are you feeling overwhelmed by daily responsibilities?
Are you experiencing persistent feelings of worry, fear, or guilt?

Tips for Managing Mental Health

Check in with yourself. Take inventory of how you’re feeling. Sometimes just acknowledging them is helpful.
Physical activity. Exercise reduces stress, boosts mood, and balances hormones. Even a 10–15 minute walk can help.
Normalize talking about stress. Break the stigma by framing it as “part of staying strong” instead of “a weakness.” Check on your friends. Isolation is a big risk factor.
Encourage strong routines, such as regular sleep, meals, and exercise, which help stabilize mood and energy.
Offer healthy coping outlets such as hobbies, creative outlets, time outdoors, or sports instead of alcohol, gambling, or overwork.
Get professional help early. Therapy, coaching, or counseling is not just for crisis—it’s a tool to build resilience.